Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Know your zones...

Erogenous zones that is.



Consider these your foreplay "Work Zones" and go slow through these. This goes for guys and gals as well. There is always talk of how you guys have to get us going to get the goodies, and I'm so not complaining. But the fact remains that foreplay and exploration of the erogenous zones on men increases the level of intimacy between the couple. So ladies, be a giver and explore your mans erogenous zones. :D

The fun thing about erogenous zones is that each person will react differently to stimulation of specific areas, some may hate having the ears gently sucked and kissed while others will get so turned on they go nuclear! So during your next foreplay session, explore, stimulate and ask. It's a whole lot different to ask "Hey baby, you like that?" as opposed to "Am I the best lover you've ever had?" (Don't ask that, we don't like it)

There are some general erogenous zones, they include the scalp, eye lids and brows, ears, mouth and lips, neck, hands, breasts, pubic area and the feet. Stimulate these gently either through gentle touch, kissing, licking or sucking. (Again, please don't lick our eyes because ewwww) But gentle kisses are awesome in the eye area.

There are also some not so generalized erogenous zones, these too need to be explored during foreplay. Again, with gentle caresses and kisses. Ladies explore his erogenous zones! We need to treat our men in the same manner we wish to be treated, we need to take a moment and work on getting him turned on and made to feel sexy. The main untouched upon erogenous zones for him is the mind.

The best way to stimulate his mind is to engage it during your foreplay session. Talk to him, ask him what he wants and fantasizes about. Have him tell you what he wants you to do, or what he wants to do to you. Most men (from those I've spoken to) are extremely visual lovers, for us girlies out there who have body image issues this is a tricky realm to navigate. I suggest to engage his mind, cover his eyes. :) Yup, you got it, I'm not talking full bondage, whips and chains. I mean just cover his eyes with your panties, a blindfold something sexy that is going to make him think since he can't look. In doing this it does add a bit of mystique to you and the bedroom, it lets you get a little naughty without being self-conscious.

Once you've engaged the mind, explore the other zones. Use varying touch and again ask which is the most enjoyable. Since he can't see what you are doing, surprise him with some experimental textures. A feather, a piece of ice in your mouth as you kiss his erogenous zones, massage wax to heat it up a little. Get creative with texture, we know what it's like to wear lacy, satiny, silky stuff and how it feels on our bodies so use these textures to stimulate his erogenous zones as well. Use the air from your mouth to warm his erogenous zones, then ice it down and start all over creating a warm then cold sensation for him.

I know some men get turned on when the wind blows just right, but make no mistake we women can too. So guys and gents, pay attention to your lady, use the techniques mentioned above to engage her mind and her erogenous zones as well. One of the sexiest things I've ever experienced, that caused such anticipation was being asked. I know it might sound silly, but as you are getting ready for your carnal explorations, ask your lover "Can I kiss (or touch) you there (insert body part)" use anticipation to your advantage. Ask then wait and explore another part you have permission to do so. The anticipation this creates is extremely erotic and dual purpose in that if a person is uncomfortable being touched in certain areas you will know to avoid this area. Knowing the touch and no touch zones is equally as important in knowing the erogenous zones themselves.

For the men some additional erogenous zones for their partners to explore are:

Back of the Knee
Lower abs
Inner thighs
Nape of neck
Perineum (the space between the scrotum and anus)
Lower back
Buttocks
Feet
Mouth and lips
Nipples (Edit - Thank you poster!)

Ladies have similar erogenous zones for their partners to explore and they are:

Back of the knee
The wrists
Buttocks
Breasts and nipples
Mouth and lips
The Mons (the pubic bone area)
Feet
Inner thighs
Nape of neck
Lower back

Taking just a few moments from your love-making time to explore your lover has a multitude of benefits for both partners. It's a turn on, it's an exploratory moment, it creates a higher level of intimacy and it creates the anticipation of what's to come. So take a couple of moments, explore the "go zones", learn the "no zones" and explore your lover.

Get out the ice, champagne, silk sashes and massage candles! Explore your lover, let them explore you and revel in the anticipation and as always...


Stay Curvy!!!

XOXO

3 comments:

  1. What a great blog!!! LOVED this!!!
    Sooz

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  2. SOOOOOZZZZZZ!! Thank you lovey. Hope you enjoyed it as much as I have enjoyed reading yours. ;)

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