Amazing Sex

You can't have it if you don't up your game!

I wish I was joking here, but unfortunately, I'm not.  Sex is one of those things in life that we can enjoy as we work to improve it.  I spoke with Dr. Charley Ferrer last night here.  We discussed her newest book, Sex Unlimited.  This book really runs the gamut of the dating scene to erotic fun time and gives even us ole' married people a few ideas.

This is one of those books that everyone can find something useful in this.  Dr. Charley isn't only a fun chicka to chat with, but she knows how to relate to people.  A clinical sexologist, and author of 13 books she is the go to girl for sexy fun ideas.

Do check out Sex Unlimited it's a great read and guaranteed to have something for everyone.  One of the reasons I was so excited to have Dr. Charley on for our Romantic Wednesday is that she really just says it, without holding back and without sugar coating things.  She talks in Sex Unlimited about her 90 day rule, which I love love and wish I knew about it prior to my age of majority where I made bad choices just because I could.

Of course, I skipped over the dating section and went straight to her section called Erotic Pleasures because, well, its fabulous.  I find getting sexy ideas extremely erotic and acting on them even more.  Sex takes practice and you know what they say, practice make perfect.

So grab Sex Unlimited, listen to my chat with Dr. Ferrer here be sure to check back often because we'll have Dr. Ferrer back for next weeks upcoming KinkEnd episode to talk about her book BDSM The Naked Truth.  We've designed some great widgets that upload our rss feed straight to our blogs.  These widgets you can share, just click the get this widget tab below which ever segment you enjoy most and post it to your pages.

Be sure to send in all your questions for Dr. Ferrer as she will be guest authoring on this blog as well as our www.curviesmuses.com to be sure to and answer all your sexy questions.

So stay sexy my little doves, stay safe, read and be sexy and as always...


Stay Curvy
XOXO

Part Two of Intimacy and Sexual Fulfillment

You can find the original post here, at www.curviesmuses.com the original blog.

In the first segment of this series we discussed communication.  While communication is highly important, we can not end it with talk, we have to take action as well.  I talk about sex and sexuality all the time, with strangers, family, friends and unknown listeners.  I can even discuss intimacy and things I'd like or my love would like but with those who are not the aforementioned lover, in these cases the intimacy stops there with the discussion.

We have to remember that the communication aspect is like giving a speech, you're expressing your ideas.  Now put that into this context, if Bill Gates, the guy that owns the world, yeah him. Or Steven Jobs? What if he only expressed his fantastic thoughts on an undeveloped program called Windows, then never took the action required to make it happen?  Seriously, where would computer technology be today?  What if Steven Jobs, choose to talk but not act?

Now sure that is a pretty grandiose example, but when you think of your long term relationship, it's pretty grandiose as well and could span several years of your life, that you can't get back.  So think of your intimate communications as a type of foreplay.  Having the discussion is enough to get me all randied up, and I'm sure I'm not alone in that aspect.

The next step is one of action.  I've been known to text the honey with an directions, date & time for us to meet.  Usually under the guise of a work related thing, but it can be just a quick meet up for lunch as well.  Now this isn't an every week thing, we can go months without either of us wanting to plot something sexy to get that fire lit again.  So I generally take advantage of this fact and set our meeting place at our local naughty store, lingerie store or one of our fabulous wineries in the area.  Now, I own an adult store, so saying "Guess what I got from UPS today?" just doesn't hold the same excitement as it did a few years ago, but it's a fabulous intro for those who shop online for their sexy toys.

I know, an awful ploy to get the honey to tell me what he thinks about this toy or that piece of lingerie.  Plus I love his reaction when we are browsing the sexy offerings.  Personally I like to schedule these sexy dates a few days in advance of our weekend so that we can each have something to think about and get us waiting breathlessly for our couples only night.

I've had a lot of people talk about spontaneity, yes yes yes.  This is fabulous, but not necessarily going to happen if you are in a sexual rut or going through a dry spell, so to speak.  The entire point of this segment is to help you get out of that funk.  BUT, spontaneity can still be a included in this.  Go through the planning process and surprise your lover with it at your time of choice, you can encourage them to do the same.  Regardless, the use of communication should take place first. Get your limits, fantasies and sexual desires expressed so you each have a basis for setting up your sexy night together.

Now, everything is set in motion.  You've discussed your desires, plotted out some fun time whether together or alone, had a sexy pre-date meeting, gathered all your supplies or sexy wear, planned a pre/post sensual snack, set the mood with lighting and some sexy scents in the air.  Now all that is left is to show up, explore and enjoy each other.

What are you waiting for?  It's a considerably small amount of time to plan a sexy play date.  What is mind numbing sex worth to you?  It doesn't have to cost you a penny to get intimate with your lover.  More often than not answering the door when my honey comes home in nothing but my favorite heels and a smile does the trick.

Intimacy and great sex takes a little bit of effort, but it is so worth it!  No one is born being a great lover, no one is born knowing how to act in an intimate relationship.  It's well worth the effort and the pay out in the end will blow your mind!

So stop reading this, set your pre sexy time meeting, and show up!!!!  Of course and as always...


Stay Curvy
XOXO