in January we are expanding our podcasts on blog talk radio! (hey I'm payin for it might as well use it!)
So our line up is as follows:
Romantic Wednesday: All you authors out there come chat with me about your work, published and upcoming books, ebooks, erotica, erotic poetry etc... Every Wednesday we'll be talking about some sexy read.
Sex Toy Thursday: We are working on gathering the most innovative, sexy, fun & functional sex toy manufacturers to talk about their toys. On the market or soon to be released. ( I ♥ sex toyzzzzzz )
It's the KinkEnd Fridays: Because a KinkEnd is so much more fun than a regular weekend. On Fridays we will be talking all things kinky! We are going to dig deep into topics such as Power Play, Pain Play, Bondage and Role Play as well as other forms of kink and how to get your kinky on.
Sex Talk Saturday: In January we are going to tackle some pretty hard-hitting topics like Sex after Sexual Trauma: Getting your sexy back! We'll be having on Montique of Zinity Fitness and talk about their performance enhancing exercise routine! We are also working on getting on live a Doctor to discuss some signs of sexual dysfunction, a Pharmacist to discuss sexual side-effects of some common pharmaceutical treatments and possibly, just maybe a super awesome holistic health practitioner to go over some alternative methods to deal with sexual issues.
Gonna be a busy year 2013, assuming I survive the zombies (IJS hehe)
Showing posts with label Body Image. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Body Image. Show all posts
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
To bare
or not to bare... This is the question. There are a lot of ways to bare yourself to your lover. But the baring I'm talking about is the body bare. ;) getting' nakie, nude, naked, without clothing, baring the goodies, flashing the stuff, showing the cookie. How ever you term it getting naked in front of our lovers can be both exhilarating and intimidating. (Unless you're a professional model or dancer! IJS)
Awesome image post on tumblr by SlowRider655
Now I can only write from the aspect of a woman, but I have to imagine that the gamut of emotions we run through when getting naked has to be similar to that of what men must go through as well. It's serious business getting naked in front of someone. (and big business as well) It takes some courage and for me at least took a few years of small steps to get comfortable just being naked in the presence of my honey outside the purpose of sex that is.
It's relatively easy to get naked for sex, but being naked and getting naked just for the sake of being and getting naked is a stretch for most people I talk with. Also, appropriate times for nakedness can be hard to come by if you have a family. IJS, no one really wants to sit down at the dinner table on fried chicken night with nakedness all about. Now desert night while the kids are at camp, sure go for it.
I think it may be more our culture that makes us weary of being naked just for the sake of being naked. Yet, we are bombarded with near nudity fairly regularly, we contend back and forth about the human form and what should and should not be displayed. We can all appreciate the human body in one way or another it's a beautiful thing.
We find ourselves easily getting naked to shower or bathe, near naked for a dip in the pool or beach, and lingerie only adds to the sexiness of our naked. Still, getting naked just to be naked is something that we often avoid, don't ever even think about or find ourselves skeeved out by the suggestion. Now, I've read lots of material on the benefits of being naked, brought to you by the good people who gave us the Kama Sutra (you're welcome). I've also read a mountain of Cosmo's giving us instruction on how to strip etc...
I forever it seemed would try these tips and tricks only to fall flat on my face, dive beet red under the covers or make a mad dash to the light switch to turn it off. It wasn't until I decided to just be naked for a half an hour every other day for no reason other than being naked. It's a strange thing to think about and make a conscious decision to do I know, hello, Hi, I'm me, have we met?
Anyhoo, I did this only for me and not for any sexual purpose, trust me. Honey came home, found me naked as a jaybird sprawled out on the chaise reading a book on JavaScript having a peppermint mocha and listening to Etta James. NOT IN MY PLANS for the day. Nor was the explanation as to why exactly I was in the condition mentioned earlier. But he's French, and I'm odd so the end result was both of us sprawled out naked on the chaise, sharing (not happy about) my peppermint mocha, reading our respective pieces of literature (or instruction) listening to Etta James. This was 5 years into our relationship and he mentioned that he had never actually seen me lights on, no reason, relaxed & just naked. He said it was the most beautiful image he ever saw and of course this led to sex, but aside from that it was the naturality of the state I was in that was the beauty of it all.
I've said it a million times, I'm a curvy chicka, big butt & boobs with thick thighs. So for me, being comfortable in the nude was hard to do, at first. It took a lot to be able to stand in front of a full length mirror naked and see all the flaws and self-perceived imperfections. I'll never be a super model, nor a not so super model, but for the most part becoming comfortable naked was for me:
Learning to accept my body (easier said than done)
Doing everything I can to be healthy (eating well and exercise)
Accepting that we are all built differently (any image will show this fact, accepting it meh, that's iffy)
I got to review all my scars. Yes snakes do bite people on the butt when they are peeing in the woods. (IJS) Yes, scratching poison ivy relentlessly for days on end will end up in scaring the skin. Yes small dogs teeth attached to an ankle does scar. Finally, yes that random puberty induced zit that you pick at will leave a scar. Then the honey and I got to spend time comparing scars and laughing at the memories. It was this second that I became comfortable with being naked, in more that the physical way, with another person. It's the best feeling in the world! It's being vulnerable, honest, open and naked!!!!
So I've put together my lists of 5's: Five things that keep us from being naked for no reason, Five benefits of being naked for no reason, Five ways to get comfortable being naked for no reason. Buckle up, here we go...
Five things that keep us from being naked for no reason.
1. Self Perception. The way we see ourselves is often in the harshest light possible. We are so prone to see only our flaws, anything else I was taught was vanity. So I say to hell with that, we all have the right to love ourselves; flaws, scars, curves, beauty all of it and all at the same time.
2. The way we believe others see us. This is a big one, and hard to get past. Simply put if someone is in that close of a proximity to you and they are judging you on your body, show em the door and be naked when you do it!
3. Privacy. Yes, being naked should probably be done in private space. Though, in many cultures naked is accepted and good. It's the level of prudishness that our society has placed on us that makes this a requirement. I can talk about how easy it is to walk nude on a beach in France, except I can't because it's so ingrained in my psyche that I can't do it.
4. Appropriateness. Is it ok to be naked for reasons other than washing and sex? I wouldn't suggest standing over the fireplace or splitting wood in the nude. No need to watch the newest scooby doo with your kiddies in the nude, but outside of exposing yourself to children or the unsuspecting neighbor WHY NOT?
5. Comfort. It's easier to be comfortable in a pair of yoga pants and loose-fitting t-shirt, sure, but you're not naked.
Five benefits of being naked for no reason.
1. Confidence. If you can get comfortable being in your own skin, and I mean only your skin, your confidence level is forced to rise, begrudgingly perhaps. Lets face it, we wear things to accentuate the positive, to bring out those parts of us we are comfortable with. Being nude for no reason puts it all out there, our small or large butts and our knobby knees or what ever part we keep trying to hide.
2. Air. Exposed skin absorbs more nutrients! Also, being without clothing allows your skin to BREATHE. Without air, we would die and when we leave the largest organ (our skin) bound up covered with layer upon layer or air blocking clothes our skin suffocates. Clothing also "holds in" natural body odors, causes sweat to become stale and stinky. Fresh air combats the odor molecules that can accumulate on the skin and in our body hair.
3. UV Light. If you know of or suffer from the "Winter Blues", this is a vitamin D deficiency that happens because the sun is out for shorter periods. The skin transforms sun light into vitamin D and in turn vitamin D helps the body to regulate calcium & phospahte levels. AND (yes there's more) The light that gives you a tan also destroys the bacteria that gives you acne.
4. Blood flow. Bra straps, tight elastic bands, tight-fitting anything restricts the blood flow. Better blood flow and circulation is key to a healthy heart.
5. Weight. Metabolism and digestion are improved because the waist is not in a constant state of being bound. Organs are able to shift to their pre-restrictive clothing permitted positions. The mental and emotional benefit also increases our desire to exercise & eat right(Double edged sword there).
Five ways to get comfortable being naked for no reason.
1. Take small steps in private. You have to be comfortable with yourself before you will be able to be comfortable in the presence of another person while nude.
2. Spend a moment after your shower or bath. Let your body air dry, less those parts that take too long (under the breast, the genital, between the toes) This is not only good for the skin, but it gives you those few moments being naked for no reason other than you have to dry off!
3. Find something beautiful about your own body. Focus on this. Adore this. Let your confidence grow in this one area and watch it seed and grow throughout your body. All things start pretty small, confidence is the same in this aspect. It can be as simple as a small beauty mark that sits in an alluring place, your eyes, what ever it is. Every person has something about them that is beautiful!
4. Sleeping nude or near nude. Take a short nap if you sleep with a partner, and do it nude. If you can't do this, find something as close to nude as you can get. A huge t-shirt and no skivvies will work. OR talk to your partner, see how they feel about having a nude night in bed. Not necessarily for sex, but for sleeping. Sleeping with a partner in the nude is less intimidating that standing in front of them in the nude, you can pull that sheet in close and have a modicum of coverage but YOU are still nude.
5. Exfoliate, groom, mani/pedi and tint if necessary. Keeping the skin exfoliated is a huge part in keeping us comfortable in the nude. Grooming goes a long way in creating a higher comfort level, even for those out there who choose a natural state, trimming is a great practice. Mani/Pedi both men and women can benefit from this, keeping our hands and feet well maintained just feels good. I love extending a well manicured hand when meeting someone (with my clothes on!). Tint, we all have to moisturize our skin, if you have uneven skin tone or texture, there are some great tinted moisturizers that are body safe. There's an old saying, if you can't tone it, tan it. True statement.
So get naked, get comfortable, stay sexy and as always...
Stay Curvy
XOXO
Awesome image post on tumblr by SlowRider655
Now I can only write from the aspect of a woman, but I have to imagine that the gamut of emotions we run through when getting naked has to be similar to that of what men must go through as well. It's serious business getting naked in front of someone. (and big business as well) It takes some courage and for me at least took a few years of small steps to get comfortable just being naked in the presence of my honey outside the purpose of sex that is.
It's relatively easy to get naked for sex, but being naked and getting naked just for the sake of being and getting naked is a stretch for most people I talk with. Also, appropriate times for nakedness can be hard to come by if you have a family. IJS, no one really wants to sit down at the dinner table on fried chicken night with nakedness all about. Now desert night while the kids are at camp, sure go for it.
I think it may be more our culture that makes us weary of being naked just for the sake of being naked. Yet, we are bombarded with near nudity fairly regularly, we contend back and forth about the human form and what should and should not be displayed. We can all appreciate the human body in one way or another it's a beautiful thing.
We find ourselves easily getting naked to shower or bathe, near naked for a dip in the pool or beach, and lingerie only adds to the sexiness of our naked. Still, getting naked just to be naked is something that we often avoid, don't ever even think about or find ourselves skeeved out by the suggestion. Now, I've read lots of material on the benefits of being naked, brought to you by the good people who gave us the Kama Sutra (you're welcome). I've also read a mountain of Cosmo's giving us instruction on how to strip etc...
I forever it seemed would try these tips and tricks only to fall flat on my face, dive beet red under the covers or make a mad dash to the light switch to turn it off. It wasn't until I decided to just be naked for a half an hour every other day for no reason other than being naked. It's a strange thing to think about and make a conscious decision to do I know, hello, Hi, I'm me, have we met?
Anyhoo, I did this only for me and not for any sexual purpose, trust me. Honey came home, found me naked as a jaybird sprawled out on the chaise reading a book on JavaScript having a peppermint mocha and listening to Etta James. NOT IN MY PLANS for the day. Nor was the explanation as to why exactly I was in the condition mentioned earlier. But he's French, and I'm odd so the end result was both of us sprawled out naked on the chaise, sharing (not happy about) my peppermint mocha, reading our respective pieces of literature (or instruction) listening to Etta James. This was 5 years into our relationship and he mentioned that he had never actually seen me lights on, no reason, relaxed & just naked. He said it was the most beautiful image he ever saw and of course this led to sex, but aside from that it was the naturality of the state I was in that was the beauty of it all.
I've said it a million times, I'm a curvy chicka, big butt & boobs with thick thighs. So for me, being comfortable in the nude was hard to do, at first. It took a lot to be able to stand in front of a full length mirror naked and see all the flaws and self-perceived imperfections. I'll never be a super model, nor a not so super model, but for the most part becoming comfortable naked was for me:
Learning to accept my body (easier said than done)
Doing everything I can to be healthy (eating well and exercise)
Accepting that we are all built differently (any image will show this fact, accepting it meh, that's iffy)
I got to review all my scars. Yes snakes do bite people on the butt when they are peeing in the woods. (IJS) Yes, scratching poison ivy relentlessly for days on end will end up in scaring the skin. Yes small dogs teeth attached to an ankle does scar. Finally, yes that random puberty induced zit that you pick at will leave a scar. Then the honey and I got to spend time comparing scars and laughing at the memories. It was this second that I became comfortable with being naked, in more that the physical way, with another person. It's the best feeling in the world! It's being vulnerable, honest, open and naked!!!!
So I've put together my lists of 5's: Five things that keep us from being naked for no reason, Five benefits of being naked for no reason, Five ways to get comfortable being naked for no reason. Buckle up, here we go...
Five things that keep us from being naked for no reason.
1. Self Perception. The way we see ourselves is often in the harshest light possible. We are so prone to see only our flaws, anything else I was taught was vanity. So I say to hell with that, we all have the right to love ourselves; flaws, scars, curves, beauty all of it and all at the same time.
2. The way we believe others see us. This is a big one, and hard to get past. Simply put if someone is in that close of a proximity to you and they are judging you on your body, show em the door and be naked when you do it!
3. Privacy. Yes, being naked should probably be done in private space. Though, in many cultures naked is accepted and good. It's the level of prudishness that our society has placed on us that makes this a requirement. I can talk about how easy it is to walk nude on a beach in France, except I can't because it's so ingrained in my psyche that I can't do it.
4. Appropriateness. Is it ok to be naked for reasons other than washing and sex? I wouldn't suggest standing over the fireplace or splitting wood in the nude. No need to watch the newest scooby doo with your kiddies in the nude, but outside of exposing yourself to children or the unsuspecting neighbor WHY NOT?
5. Comfort. It's easier to be comfortable in a pair of yoga pants and loose-fitting t-shirt, sure, but you're not naked.
Five benefits of being naked for no reason.
1. Confidence. If you can get comfortable being in your own skin, and I mean only your skin, your confidence level is forced to rise, begrudgingly perhaps. Lets face it, we wear things to accentuate the positive, to bring out those parts of us we are comfortable with. Being nude for no reason puts it all out there, our small or large butts and our knobby knees or what ever part we keep trying to hide.
2. Air. Exposed skin absorbs more nutrients! Also, being without clothing allows your skin to BREATHE. Without air, we would die and when we leave the largest organ (our skin) bound up covered with layer upon layer or air blocking clothes our skin suffocates. Clothing also "holds in" natural body odors, causes sweat to become stale and stinky. Fresh air combats the odor molecules that can accumulate on the skin and in our body hair.
3. UV Light. If you know of or suffer from the "Winter Blues", this is a vitamin D deficiency that happens because the sun is out for shorter periods. The skin transforms sun light into vitamin D and in turn vitamin D helps the body to regulate calcium & phospahte levels. AND (yes there's more) The light that gives you a tan also destroys the bacteria that gives you acne.
4. Blood flow. Bra straps, tight elastic bands, tight-fitting anything restricts the blood flow. Better blood flow and circulation is key to a healthy heart.
5. Weight. Metabolism and digestion are improved because the waist is not in a constant state of being bound. Organs are able to shift to their pre-restrictive clothing permitted positions. The mental and emotional benefit also increases our desire to exercise & eat right(Double edged sword there).
Five ways to get comfortable being naked for no reason.
1. Take small steps in private. You have to be comfortable with yourself before you will be able to be comfortable in the presence of another person while nude.
2. Spend a moment after your shower or bath. Let your body air dry, less those parts that take too long (under the breast, the genital, between the toes) This is not only good for the skin, but it gives you those few moments being naked for no reason other than you have to dry off!
3. Find something beautiful about your own body. Focus on this. Adore this. Let your confidence grow in this one area and watch it seed and grow throughout your body. All things start pretty small, confidence is the same in this aspect. It can be as simple as a small beauty mark that sits in an alluring place, your eyes, what ever it is. Every person has something about them that is beautiful!
4. Sleeping nude or near nude. Take a short nap if you sleep with a partner, and do it nude. If you can't do this, find something as close to nude as you can get. A huge t-shirt and no skivvies will work. OR talk to your partner, see how they feel about having a nude night in bed. Not necessarily for sex, but for sleeping. Sleeping with a partner in the nude is less intimidating that standing in front of them in the nude, you can pull that sheet in close and have a modicum of coverage but YOU are still nude.
5. Exfoliate, groom, mani/pedi and tint if necessary. Keeping the skin exfoliated is a huge part in keeping us comfortable in the nude. Grooming goes a long way in creating a higher comfort level, even for those out there who choose a natural state, trimming is a great practice. Mani/Pedi both men and women can benefit from this, keeping our hands and feet well maintained just feels good. I love extending a well manicured hand when meeting someone (with my clothes on!). Tint, we all have to moisturize our skin, if you have uneven skin tone or texture, there are some great tinted moisturizers that are body safe. There's an old saying, if you can't tone it, tan it. True statement.
So get naked, get comfortable, stay sexy and as always...
Stay Curvy
XOXO
Sunday, October 28, 2012
The truth about
body image...
There seems to be a battle of body images going on. Frankly it's bullshit. Sorry, but I'm going to call a spade a spade. After speaking with two awesome women last night whom both survived breast cancer it got me to thinking. (It happens, zip it :D ) I understand that we each have differences some of us are thin and some are not. Some are confident and some are not. Some are tall while others are short. So while we enjoy our differences, and the fact that unless we are an identical twin, no one else in the world looks like us. (the doppelgänger theory has yet to be proven scientifically)
What is the freaking point? I know right, I'm getting to it. The point is that this battle of body types isn't helping. Mantras like "REAL women have curves" only trivialize and demean our thin sisters. So cut it the F out. Seriously. I read somewhere the other day, a woman had posted that she was a "big girl" and had yadda yadda yadda issue. The very first response to her was something like "Don't try to make yourself real by saying your fat..." I thought to myself what a twattish thing to say. (Sorry for the language, I had to make up a word to fit my feelings on the comment and that was as nasty as I could come up with)
There seem to be two very divided camps on body image, those who believe that you're not real if you don't have curves and those who believe that you are slobbish and unhealthy if you do. These camps are divided not really over any issue other than competition for mates. Sorry, but it's true. It's our genetic makeup, for a majority of the population, to seek out the most suitable mate. Contrary to popular belief, it's not ones appearance that initially attracts our mate, but our chemical make up. Our Pheromones. Then it's our social compatibility, meaning are we comfortable being ourselves around potential mates, can we have a conversation with them. Then comes the physical attraction.
I've been all over the board on "my type" I've gone from Harley guy, to Judge, to Military, to Gynecologist (please don't get me started on this one) American good ole' boy, American Indian, to Italian, to Russian and finally to French. I can appreciate me some Wesley Snipes and yet find myself oddly attracted to that kinda skeevy, sketchy character on the Walking Dead. (You know the one with the cross-bow) At times, I can appreciate the rock hard abs and the strength they embody, others I crave the softer more comfortable type.
The point I'm getting to is that while all these male body types exist, you don't see men waging a body war with each other. They are getting it right over on us ladies. You don't see a man say, "OMG Ralph, look at his butt, it's just so big." *as I break into song and dance singing I like Big Butts* Men don't seem to have this body type issue with each other, yet it would seem what we THINK men prefer in women has created a "Body War" between women.
It's real simple, most men (and women) have a variety of tastes in their sexual partners. At one point in my younger years, I weighed in at a whopping 103lbs soaking wet. 96 of those pounds were my butt. (only a minor exaggeration) This was long before JLo and her fabulous ass hit the scene. I was dating a "gentleman" who made the comment that my butt was too big and I needed to work out. So after 967,421 squats and lunges the tape measure devastated me with a growth rate of nearly an inch for my backside. It got bigger!!!! :(( I should have said then, what Margaret Cho so eloquently said, something to the tune of If you are finding flaws with my body while you are F'ing me, then you shouldn't be F'ing me. But I was young, and had fallen under the Cosmopolitan spell of "this is the perfect body", and the Maxim idea of what EVERY man wants.
It wasn't until I went into business for myself that I learned it's all about marketing. This ideal of what is beautiful and what you need to BUY to get this look so people will find you attractive, when people find you attractive you have power and with power comes the finer things in life. All in all a great circle of the "good life", but there is one flaw. No matter how hard you try, you can't Photoshop who you are.
So now we have this raging battle of female body types and frankly we look like complete idiots when we engage in the whole Curvy vs Skinny craptastic BS. It's shallow and vicious and frankly no man I know wants a woman who is sooooo self-absorbed they have to bash another woman because of her body type. It may be statistically proven that heavier women have a harder time in the work force, getting a job etc... But who is doing the hiring? Is it another judgey panties sister who has to make a point regarding body type? I don't know the answer.
Finally, and only then will I step down off my reinforced soap box, there is a difference in the body type war and the health war. It comes down to this, if someone you are F'ing says you're too this or too that ditch them, they aren't worth your time. If your DOCTOR, (who btw you should not be F'ing) says you're too this or too that, you need to listen to them and take the action to get out of that "too much range".
So here's my list of sexy...
Confidence
Attitude
A loving heart
Inner Strength
Personality
No matter the body type war, stay true to yourself, stay confident, stay healthy and as always...
Stay Curvy (or not ;) )
P.S. Wesley call me. :D Rawr Rawr Rawr (I'mma be a vampire for Halloween and might need a good staking O_O)
Yet rather than celebrating these differences we so enjoy, we choose to battle for the "hearts and minds" of our counterparts in the sexual arena. Why? I'm quite tired of the mantras going about comparing body types. My name says it all, I am curvy. I got curves so sharp they need a speed restriction and while I can relate to this (because it is my body type) I'm NOT IDENTIFIED (yes I used Bossy caps) by this. Each image is of a breathtakingly beautiful woman. Her body "type" is the last thing I see. The first image I see confidence and oozing sexuality, the second image is just wow, the third image I see her beautiful lines and the fourth image I see a woman who is confident and fun and comfortable with herself. (Oh and the first image I see a great pair of shoes, OMG call me I have to know where to get those!!!)
What is the freaking point? I know right, I'm getting to it. The point is that this battle of body types isn't helping. Mantras like "REAL women have curves" only trivialize and demean our thin sisters. So cut it the F out. Seriously. I read somewhere the other day, a woman had posted that she was a "big girl" and had yadda yadda yadda issue. The very first response to her was something like "Don't try to make yourself real by saying your fat..." I thought to myself what a twattish thing to say. (Sorry for the language, I had to make up a word to fit my feelings on the comment and that was as nasty as I could come up with)
There seem to be two very divided camps on body image, those who believe that you're not real if you don't have curves and those who believe that you are slobbish and unhealthy if you do. These camps are divided not really over any issue other than competition for mates. Sorry, but it's true. It's our genetic makeup, for a majority of the population, to seek out the most suitable mate. Contrary to popular belief, it's not ones appearance that initially attracts our mate, but our chemical make up. Our Pheromones. Then it's our social compatibility, meaning are we comfortable being ourselves around potential mates, can we have a conversation with them. Then comes the physical attraction.
I've been all over the board on "my type" I've gone from Harley guy, to Judge, to Military, to Gynecologist (please don't get me started on this one) American good ole' boy, American Indian, to Italian, to Russian and finally to French. I can appreciate me some Wesley Snipes and yet find myself oddly attracted to that kinda skeevy, sketchy character on the Walking Dead. (You know the one with the cross-bow) At times, I can appreciate the rock hard abs and the strength they embody, others I crave the softer more comfortable type.
The point I'm getting to is that while all these male body types exist, you don't see men waging a body war with each other. They are getting it right over on us ladies. You don't see a man say, "OMG Ralph, look at his butt, it's just so big." *as I break into song and dance singing I like Big Butts* Men don't seem to have this body type issue with each other, yet it would seem what we THINK men prefer in women has created a "Body War" between women.
It's real simple, most men (and women) have a variety of tastes in their sexual partners. At one point in my younger years, I weighed in at a whopping 103lbs soaking wet. 96 of those pounds were my butt. (only a minor exaggeration) This was long before JLo and her fabulous ass hit the scene. I was dating a "gentleman" who made the comment that my butt was too big and I needed to work out. So after 967,421 squats and lunges the tape measure devastated me with a growth rate of nearly an inch for my backside. It got bigger!!!! :(( I should have said then, what Margaret Cho so eloquently said, something to the tune of If you are finding flaws with my body while you are F'ing me, then you shouldn't be F'ing me. But I was young, and had fallen under the Cosmopolitan spell of "this is the perfect body", and the Maxim idea of what EVERY man wants.
It wasn't until I went into business for myself that I learned it's all about marketing. This ideal of what is beautiful and what you need to BUY to get this look so people will find you attractive, when people find you attractive you have power and with power comes the finer things in life. All in all a great circle of the "good life", but there is one flaw. No matter how hard you try, you can't Photoshop who you are.
So now we have this raging battle of female body types and frankly we look like complete idiots when we engage in the whole Curvy vs Skinny craptastic BS. It's shallow and vicious and frankly no man I know wants a woman who is sooooo self-absorbed they have to bash another woman because of her body type. It may be statistically proven that heavier women have a harder time in the work force, getting a job etc... But who is doing the hiring? Is it another judgey panties sister who has to make a point regarding body type? I don't know the answer.
Finally, and only then will I step down off my reinforced soap box, there is a difference in the body type war and the health war. It comes down to this, if someone you are F'ing says you're too this or too that ditch them, they aren't worth your time. If your DOCTOR, (who btw you should not be F'ing) says you're too this or too that, you need to listen to them and take the action to get out of that "too much range".
So here's my list of sexy...
Confidence
Attitude
A loving heart
Inner Strength
Personality
No matter the body type war, stay true to yourself, stay confident, stay healthy and as always...
Stay Curvy (or not ;) )
P.S. Wesley call me. :D Rawr Rawr Rawr (I'mma be a vampire for Halloween and might need a good staking O_O)
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