Hi there kinksters! I hope you all survived the holiday season relatively unmarred. Or at least have some great stories as to where you got the new scars!
2013 is so far starting out pretty well for us as we had our first KinkEnd show on Friday, check it out here! KinkEnd is a weekly show where Curvy and myself talk about different aspects of kink culture and BDSM. Last week's show was an introduction to Power Exchange.
Power exchange is one of those terms that if heard out of context can mean so many different things to so many different people but in terms of kink culture it is used to describe a relationship where one person holds a majority of the power. A good easy example is the D/s, or dominant/submissive, relationship where the Dominant partner has more power than the submissive does through mutual agreement.
There are any number of different types of power exchange relationships. There are no set rules or standards that need to be fulfilled to qualify. Some relationships are based on one person having virtually all of the power over the other(s) as would be seen in a Master/Mistress and slave relationship. Other relationships are more situational confining the exchange to only certain times or places such as a D/s couple that only takes place in the bedroom.
It may not be for everyone, but it's something that many people find to be sexy and worth trying out.
To learn more about Power Exchange relationships give the show a listen. We hope you enjoy it!
If you have any questions about Power Exchange let me know in the comment section below.
KinkEnd's next show is an Introduction to Sensation and Pain play. And I have to say, as a sadist I'm rather looking forward to this one! :D
If you have questions about BDSM, kink culture,
alternative sexuality, sadism or something specific for me please feel
free to send them to: darr_syn@curvysaftermidnight.comdarr_syn@curvysaftermidnight.com and I'll do our
best to answer them. You can also send them to my new twitter account @darr_syn at your leisure. Also be sure to check out our sister blog over on wordpress curviesmuses.com
Those of you that are interested in
reading some of my older essays and writings you can head on over to
reddit.com and see a listing on them here.
Until next time, kinksters, be safe and have fun!
DS
Showing posts with label Sex talk radio. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Sex talk radio. Show all posts
Monday, January 7, 2013
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
As if it weren't enough...
in January we are expanding our podcasts on blog talk radio! (hey I'm payin for it might as well use it!)
So our line up is as follows:
Romantic Wednesday: All you authors out there come chat with me about your work, published and upcoming books, ebooks, erotica, erotic poetry etc... Every Wednesday we'll be talking about some sexy read.
Sex Toy Thursday: We are working on gathering the most innovative, sexy, fun & functional sex toy manufacturers to talk about their toys. On the market or soon to be released. ( I ♥ sex toyzzzzzz )
It's the KinkEnd Fridays: Because a KinkEnd is so much more fun than a regular weekend. On Fridays we will be talking all things kinky! We are going to dig deep into topics such as Power Play, Pain Play, Bondage and Role Play as well as other forms of kink and how to get your kinky on.
Sex Talk Saturday: In January we are going to tackle some pretty hard-hitting topics like Sex after Sexual Trauma: Getting your sexy back! We'll be having on Montique of Zinity Fitness and talk about their performance enhancing exercise routine! We are also working on getting on live a Doctor to discuss some signs of sexual dysfunction, a Pharmacist to discuss sexual side-effects of some common pharmaceutical treatments and possibly, just maybe a super awesome holistic health practitioner to go over some alternative methods to deal with sexual issues.
Gonna be a busy year 2013, assuming I survive the zombies (IJS hehe)
So our line up is as follows:
Romantic Wednesday: All you authors out there come chat with me about your work, published and upcoming books, ebooks, erotica, erotic poetry etc... Every Wednesday we'll be talking about some sexy read.
Sex Toy Thursday: We are working on gathering the most innovative, sexy, fun & functional sex toy manufacturers to talk about their toys. On the market or soon to be released. ( I ♥ sex toyzzzzzz )
It's the KinkEnd Fridays: Because a KinkEnd is so much more fun than a regular weekend. On Fridays we will be talking all things kinky! We are going to dig deep into topics such as Power Play, Pain Play, Bondage and Role Play as well as other forms of kink and how to get your kinky on.
Sex Talk Saturday: In January we are going to tackle some pretty hard-hitting topics like Sex after Sexual Trauma: Getting your sexy back! We'll be having on Montique of Zinity Fitness and talk about their performance enhancing exercise routine! We are also working on getting on live a Doctor to discuss some signs of sexual dysfunction, a Pharmacist to discuss sexual side-effects of some common pharmaceutical treatments and possibly, just maybe a super awesome holistic health practitioner to go over some alternative methods to deal with sexual issues.
Gonna be a busy year 2013, assuming I survive the zombies (IJS hehe)
Monday, December 10, 2012
Enter the sadist. . .
Hi there folks! I'm Darr Syn. Recently I had the chance to chat with Curvy for over an hour and a half about kink and the BDSM world as a whole on her last radio show last Saturday. I know that I had a blast and was working hard to show people a more realistic side of sadism, but also give them the information that they’re looking for and answer their questions. Well, I think we were having way too much fun and left the audience wanting way too much. So I have signed on to guest blog for Curvy, presenting a kinky perspective and maybe write some articles answering those questions we didn’t have a chance to address in the show as well as any questions that crop up in the future.
One of the problems about discussing BDSM and kink with those not so familiar with it is that every conversation has to start with the basics. Anytime I start trying to educate someone about kink culture and my role as a sadist, I have to make sure that they understand the terms that I will be using; words like "sadist" , "dominant", and "scene". While this is important to be sure that everyone is on the same page and able to communicate in the same language, it doesn't leave much room for questions and answers beyond the mere basics. In fact Curvy and I received quite a few questions both during the show and directly after that we just didn't have the time to address on air.
But never let it be said that I intentionally leave people wanting more! After all, as I said on the show, I'm a sadist not an asshole.
So while there were a bunch of questions that I will get to over time, two questions specifically cropped up that I wanted to address in my initial post here. The questions deal with how I as a sadist deal with abuse. Specifically I was asked:
This is a topic that I think is really important. Not just to me as a sadist, but to me as a human.
The first question, though, was rather open ended as to how "abuse" is defined can change depending on context. If I'm grocery shopping and I see a parent refusing to buy their child a candy bar we can be pretty sure that at least the child is convinced they are the victim of abuse while the rest of us smile and go on with our day. Please don't get me wrong, though, I am not making light of abuse by any stretch of the imagination. I'm merely trying to put into context that the term "abuse" can be seen in a number of different ways. Hence I will be answering this question in a number of different ways.
As much as I wish I could say differently, I have witnessed physical abuse take place in public. From a guy getting rough with his girlfriend, to a wife breaking a bottle over her husband's head. I've also seen my fair share of bar fights, slap fights, hair pulling and plain old posturing push fights.
Being the person that I am, for better or worse, I have chosen almost every time to involve myself in these situations. I will try to stop things from getting too far out of control. Sometime I have just had to call the police where those involved can hear me, other times I will try and get between those getting physical. Regardless though I can never just stand aside and allow someone to be abused. My parents raised me better than that.
While I am a sexual sadist there's a world of difference between two (or more) consenting adults deciding to engage in pain play and two (or more) people deciding to harm one another.
Just because we're kinky doesn't mean we don't have rules. That's something I want everyone to understand. Abuse can, and does, happen within kink culture and BDSM communities. Anything from untrained tops harming their scene partners to unconsensual emotional and verbal abuse to plain physical abuse within a relationship. I won't get into how prevalent it may or may not be but sufficeth to say that the vanilla world hasn't cornered the market on bad relationships quite yet.
When I see those types of things going on in the BDSM community my reactions are, generally speaking, much the same. I get involved. If it is happening at a dungeon or a play party I immediately find a Dungeon Monitor and let them know about the situation. If I don't think there is time or things have gone too far already I will stop the scene myself and try to get help as soon as possible. I would much rather be rude in those situations than wrong.
Abuse within the BDSM community and kink culture needs to be taken seriously and not just brushed under the rug. It is NOT a normal thing and is NEVER acceptable.
If I wanted I could give you my standard answer of "I get involved" but when dealing with children, especially other people's children, things get a little trickier. But honestly, I would have to get involved. If I saw a child abusing an animal I would have to intervene. Physically if necessary.
Most young children do not have the mental facilities to make determinations between the gray levels of right and wrong that most adults develop over time. Sure it is absolutely possible that the child is a budding sexual sadist and doesn't know how to express what they are feeling, but it is just as likely (if not more so) that the child is acting out based on any number of different things in their life. Regardless of reason I think it is so very important that they learn that society will not tolerate this kind of action.
I would want to, first and foremost, put a stop to the abuse taking place. No animal, person, or being, deserves to be abused and it should stop as soon as possible. Only when the situation is in control would I attempt to determine the cause and reason behind the child's actions. I would also want to find the child's parents or guardians and be sure that they are aware of what has happened. I wouldn't assume that the child was a sadist like myself any more than I would jump to that conclusion when one first grader shoves another on the playground.
Just because I'm a sadist doesn't mean that I have a license to be an abusive jerk. That's not the way things work in the BDSM world or ANY world. No matter what your sexuality, your age, your gender, your background, or your mental facilities abuse is never acceptable. Period. There are too many support groups, organizations, people, and places that are out there to think that abuse is something to be put up with or ignored.
I hope that I was able to answer these questions, or at the very least give you some insight into how this sadist's mind deals with these questions.
If you have questions about BDSM, kink culture, alternative sexuality, sadism or something specific for me please feel free to send them to: Curvy or myself and we'll do our best to answer them.
Those of you that are interested in reading some of my older essays and writings you can head on over to reddit.com and see a listing on them here.
Until next time, kinksters, be safe and have fun!
DS
One of the problems about discussing BDSM and kink with those not so familiar with it is that every conversation has to start with the basics. Anytime I start trying to educate someone about kink culture and my role as a sadist, I have to make sure that they understand the terms that I will be using; words like "sadist" , "dominant", and "scene". While this is important to be sure that everyone is on the same page and able to communicate in the same language, it doesn't leave much room for questions and answers beyond the mere basics. In fact Curvy and I received quite a few questions both during the show and directly after that we just didn't have the time to address on air.
But never let it be said that I intentionally leave people wanting more! After all, as I said on the show, I'm a sadist not an asshole.
So while there were a bunch of questions that I will get to over time, two questions specifically cropped up that I wanted to address in my initial post here. The questions deal with how I as a sadist deal with abuse. Specifically I was asked:
- If you see someone being abused, what do you do?
- If you see a kid abusing an animal, what do you do?
This is a topic that I think is really important. Not just to me as a sadist, but to me as a human.
The first question, though, was rather open ended as to how "abuse" is defined can change depending on context. If I'm grocery shopping and I see a parent refusing to buy their child a candy bar we can be pretty sure that at least the child is convinced they are the victim of abuse while the rest of us smile and go on with our day. Please don't get me wrong, though, I am not making light of abuse by any stretch of the imagination. I'm merely trying to put into context that the term "abuse" can be seen in a number of different ways. Hence I will be answering this question in a number of different ways.
Physical abuse in public
As much as I wish I could say differently, I have witnessed physical abuse take place in public. From a guy getting rough with his girlfriend, to a wife breaking a bottle over her husband's head. I've also seen my fair share of bar fights, slap fights, hair pulling and plain old posturing push fights.
Being the person that I am, for better or worse, I have chosen almost every time to involve myself in these situations. I will try to stop things from getting too far out of control. Sometime I have just had to call the police where those involved can hear me, other times I will try and get between those getting physical. Regardless though I can never just stand aside and allow someone to be abused. My parents raised me better than that.
While I am a sexual sadist there's a world of difference between two (or more) consenting adults deciding to engage in pain play and two (or more) people deciding to harm one another.
Physical abuse within the BDSM world
Just because we're kinky doesn't mean we don't have rules. That's something I want everyone to understand. Abuse can, and does, happen within kink culture and BDSM communities. Anything from untrained tops harming their scene partners to unconsensual emotional and verbal abuse to plain physical abuse within a relationship. I won't get into how prevalent it may or may not be but sufficeth to say that the vanilla world hasn't cornered the market on bad relationships quite yet.
When I see those types of things going on in the BDSM community my reactions are, generally speaking, much the same. I get involved. If it is happening at a dungeon or a play party I immediately find a Dungeon Monitor and let them know about the situation. If I don't think there is time or things have gone too far already I will stop the scene myself and try to get help as soon as possible. I would much rather be rude in those situations than wrong.
Abuse within the BDSM community and kink culture needs to be taken seriously and not just brushed under the rug. It is NOT a normal thing and is NEVER acceptable.
If you see a kid abusing an animal, what do you do?
If I wanted I could give you my standard answer of "I get involved" but when dealing with children, especially other people's children, things get a little trickier. But honestly, I would have to get involved. If I saw a child abusing an animal I would have to intervene. Physically if necessary.
Most young children do not have the mental facilities to make determinations between the gray levels of right and wrong that most adults develop over time. Sure it is absolutely possible that the child is a budding sexual sadist and doesn't know how to express what they are feeling, but it is just as likely (if not more so) that the child is acting out based on any number of different things in their life. Regardless of reason I think it is so very important that they learn that society will not tolerate this kind of action.
I would want to, first and foremost, put a stop to the abuse taking place. No animal, person, or being, deserves to be abused and it should stop as soon as possible. Only when the situation is in control would I attempt to determine the cause and reason behind the child's actions. I would also want to find the child's parents or guardians and be sure that they are aware of what has happened. I wouldn't assume that the child was a sadist like myself any more than I would jump to that conclusion when one first grader shoves another on the playground.
Being kinky isn't an excuse to be abusive
Just because I'm a sadist doesn't mean that I have a license to be an abusive jerk. That's not the way things work in the BDSM world or ANY world. No matter what your sexuality, your age, your gender, your background, or your mental facilities abuse is never acceptable. Period. There are too many support groups, organizations, people, and places that are out there to think that abuse is something to be put up with or ignored.
I hope that I was able to answer these questions, or at the very least give you some insight into how this sadist's mind deals with these questions.
If you have questions about BDSM, kink culture, alternative sexuality, sadism or something specific for me please feel free to send them to: Curvy or myself and we'll do our best to answer them.
Those of you that are interested in reading some of my older essays and writings you can head on over to reddit.com and see a listing on them here.
Until next time, kinksters, be safe and have fun!
DS
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
I have something special for my lovelies
Just in time for the holidays!
Elene Sallinger has written one of the sexiest erotic novels I've ever read.
Elene Sallinger is a lover of all things lingual, a warrior of words, and a vixen of vocabulary. Her goal is to titillate, provoke, empower and move you with her work which ranges from the erotic to the dramatic and everything in between.
Elene is also the author of At Long Last available on Smashwords, and the upcoming full-length, erotic novel Doing DC from UStar Novels.
You got it, Elene Sallinger is joining us on Sex Talk with Curvy on the 22nd of December. Be sure to tune in.
I mentioned in an earlier post starting to read Awakening, I finished it in one setting, thanks to my Kindle I read in bed next to the honey. It was terribly difficult to let the man sleep through my randy read. I was mighty tempted to wake him up a couple times and say "Read, Do .... NOW" ;) (ya'll know what I'm talkin' about)
But I don't want to give too much away here, because we are gonna get to talk to the woman behind the words! Ohhhhhh I so can't wait!
If you haven't read Awakening yet, you can find it on Amazon. They have it on kindle and if you don't have a kindle you can get the kindle app for your phone.
Get the book, read & be randy :) stay sexy and as always...
Stay Curvy
XOXO
Elene Sallinger has written one of the sexiest erotic novels I've ever read.
Elene Sallinger is a lover of all things lingual, a warrior of words, and a vixen of vocabulary. Her goal is to titillate, provoke, empower and move you with her work which ranges from the erotic to the dramatic and everything in between.
Elene is also the author of At Long Last available on Smashwords, and the upcoming full-length, erotic novel Doing DC from UStar Novels.
You got it, Elene Sallinger is joining us on Sex Talk with Curvy on the 22nd of December. Be sure to tune in.
I mentioned in an earlier post starting to read Awakening, I finished it in one setting, thanks to my Kindle I read in bed next to the honey. It was terribly difficult to let the man sleep through my randy read. I was mighty tempted to wake him up a couple times and say "Read, Do .... NOW" ;) (ya'll know what I'm talkin' about)
But I don't want to give too much away here, because we are gonna get to talk to the woman behind the words! Ohhhhhh I so can't wait!
If you haven't read Awakening yet, you can find it on Amazon. They have it on kindle and if you don't have a kindle you can get the kindle app for your phone.
Get the book, read & be randy :) stay sexy and as always...
Stay Curvy
XOXO
Sunday, December 2, 2012
Our Kinky Clause Kick off...
So, here is the kick off episode of Kinky Clause... Sir Jim had me turning every shade of pink possible! What a fun one and just so naughty! ;)
Hope you take a listen and enjoy the show! Stay sexy my lovelies and until next time...
Stay Curvy
XOXO
Listen to internet radio with Sex Talk with Curvy on Blog Talk RadioHope you take a listen and enjoy the show! Stay sexy my lovelies and until next time...
Stay Curvy
XOXO
Saturday, October 27, 2012
Breast Cancer
and body image. I had the privilege to speak with not one but two of the most awesome and inspirational women I have ever had the pleasure to meet tonight. I cannot even begin to express how they inspire me and I honestly hope that any woman, or partner of a woman who is going through breast cancer or is still suffering sexual side effects from this disease will find in these two as much inspiration as I have.
I've not been affected by Breast Cancer either personally or through a close family member so I really was in the dark about the subject other than I knew it affected the "girls" and was bad. I couldn't personally imagine the betrayal of my body to the extent of actual physical detachment of a body part. Let alone one of my breasts. I mean, I love my bewbies. They are soft and pretty and squishy and fun to play with. It's a love affair and I always giggle cause I can play with them when ever I want to. It's like a toy for me that can't be taken away.
So to have the honor of having these two awesome women who not only won the battle with breast cancer, but came back sexier than ever gave me hope for all my sexy sisters out there who are in survival mode and battling this disease. You have now two role models, two beautiful sexy women who embrace life and living and one of the best parts of life in a healthy sexual relationship.
I have a whole new respect and admiration for all women and the MEN who have the stones to stand with them as they go through this struggle. So my hat, (it's a betty boop beanie btw) off to you.
Please enjoy the show Sex Talk with Curvy October 27th
Stay sexy, stay strong and as always...
Stay Curvy
XOXO
I've not been affected by Breast Cancer either personally or through a close family member so I really was in the dark about the subject other than I knew it affected the "girls" and was bad. I couldn't personally imagine the betrayal of my body to the extent of actual physical detachment of a body part. Let alone one of my breasts. I mean, I love my bewbies. They are soft and pretty and squishy and fun to play with. It's a love affair and I always giggle cause I can play with them when ever I want to. It's like a toy for me that can't be taken away.
So to have the honor of having these two awesome women who not only won the battle with breast cancer, but came back sexier than ever gave me hope for all my sexy sisters out there who are in survival mode and battling this disease. You have now two role models, two beautiful sexy women who embrace life and living and one of the best parts of life in a healthy sexual relationship.
I have a whole new respect and admiration for all women and the MEN who have the stones to stand with them as they go through this struggle. So my hat, (it's a betty boop beanie btw) off to you.
Please enjoy the show Sex Talk with Curvy October 27th
Stay sexy, stay strong and as always...
Stay Curvy
XOXO
Friday, October 19, 2012
Erotic Poetry with Sean-Pierre
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/curvies/2012/10/21/sex-talk-with-curvy. Listen and call in to speak with the man behind the words! If you enjoy his blog, you will enjoy the show!
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